A Few Updates...
My New Diagnosis, Book and More:)
Hello.
It has been a few months since I’ve written to you. I have taken a step back from a few things in my life including my business endeavors to explore, search and rediscover my why. I have been so caught up in what I “should be doing” that I have forgotten to get in touch with what I actually want to be doing.
During this time of reflection, I have been working on my first book - a lifetime dream of mine. More to come on that soon….
My ADHD Diagnosis
One of the eye opening and life changing events that has happened in my life recently was that I was diagnosed with ADHD - Inattentive Type. This has given me so much clarity, understanding and peace about my experiences of being scatter brained, unable to keep track my keys and my insatiable appetite for shiny objects (AKA new business endeavors…). If you have known me for awhile this may not come as a surprise because I have literally changed my “niche” or “focus” about 9 times in the past 4 years. Aw…that joys of a neurodivergent brain. I’m fascinated by the connection between neurodiversity and the impact of trauma because they have overlapping symptoms such as: negative self talk, perfectionism, sensitivity to negative feedback and more.
One thing I know for sure is that as someone with ADHD, we are easy scapegoats in dysfunctional family systems.
As long as “we are the problem” - dysfunctional family system can flourish in denial and perpetuate an image to the external world that “the family is perfect” and we are flawed.
This has been my experience and I’m curious to know if you experienced something similar in your dysfunctional family system?
How amazing would it be if we could break this generational cycle of scapegoating?
Neurodivergent Cycle Breakers
The crazy thing is that all of the systems/formulas I’ve created for families literally came from the pain, heartache and frustration I had with my step daughter when her behavior went off the rails as a seven year old with ADHD. She is now 19, a junior in college and thriving but it took some serious hard work and deep dive into my past to understand how I was impacting my interactions with her in a negative way.
Anyway, I just wanted to share all of that with you and I’d like to invite you to reply to this email and message me directly if you’d like to say hi. If you have ADHD or have an ADHD child - I’ve been in your shoes. You don’t have to this alone.
However our paths have crossed, I’m grateful to have you in my world. I’m grateful to have made some sort of connection with you because I don’t think it happened by accident.
I now understand that my purpose is to help lead a revolution of parents who are passionate about breaking generational cycles, especially for neurodivergent families.
I’m excited and honored to be on this adventure with you!
More to come soon….stay tuned:)
Cheers to Your Badassery,
Evelyn
Thank you for sharing this! Coming from a dysfunctional family … and then figuring out how to parent a neurodivergent child in a healthy way is a lonely difficult journey.