Three Tips to Get Out of Toxic Cycles With Your Kids
Without spending years in therapy or reading every parenting book on the planet!
🤩Hey there Badass Cycle Breaker!🤩
One of the things parents are constantly talking to me about is how to get UNSTUCK from toxic cycles with their kids.
You know…get out of the toxic cycles we oftentimes find ourselves in.
We’ve all been there. Things are going smoothly, kids are cooperating, birds are chirping and it fills like you’re finally nailing this parenting gig…then boom…
It all becomes a dumpster fire…
You are screaming your head off, the dog is barking, kids are crying, something is burning on the stove and you have oatmeal in your hair.
Or is that just me?!?!
Well, we’ve ALL been there whether we like to admit it or not. Let me tell you a little story about my clients Clint and Ava….
Clint and Ava’s Story
When Clint and Ava came to see me, they were experiencing toxic cycles with their two sons, ages 5 and 3. Their boys were pretty well behaved most of time until after dinner….then…
*It was like World War 3.
All hell would break lose…The boys would scream, cry, kick, hit and refuse to bathe, brush their teeth and put on their pj’s.
Clint and Ava tried all of the things their parents did with them…asking nicely, giving rewards, threatening, punishing them for not cooperating but NOTHING WORKED.
Clint and Ava were exhausted, discouraged and desperate for a solution.
I began to teach them about the crappy habits they were carrying with them from their childhoods and I showed them how to use Defiance Defusing Scripts to engage cooperation in the midst of power struggles.
Then Something Magical Happened
Within 1-2 weeks of working together, Clint and Ava felt empowered and confident because their boys were ACTUALLY following directions without yelling, threats and bribes!
The bedtime routine which used to turn into a wrestling match of forcing the boys to brush their teeth, turned into connected conversations & cooperation. They no longer struggled to get their boys to do the simplest of tasks.
That my friend is the POWER of Detoxing Your Crappy Habits and Defiance Defusing Scripts.
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Here are Three Tips to Detox Your Crappy Habits:
1. Don’t Take Your Child’s Behavior Personally
If you feel triggered at the slightest eye roll or tone, you are likely experiencing some crappy parenting habits from past generations. Detach your ego, it’s not personal.
2. Understand What’s Driving the Behavior
Your child’s misbehavior isn’t the problem. Now before you get your panties in a bunch, let me explain…the problem lies in your interpretation of their behavior. Once you understand what’s driving the misbehavior, your interpretation of the behavior shifts and so does your anger.
3. Behave the Way You Want Your Child to Behave
Another crappy habit is that we as parents, call the shot and often times have a “get out of jail free” card. We EXPECT our kids to be respectful, compliant and cooperative and yet we aren’t any of those things. Be a role model, not a hypocrite.
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My amazing client, Chantel shares her experience of working with me below. She broke through some generational patterns that were holding her back from being the mom she knew she could be. That’s what I want for you!
Remember, don’t allow where you’ve come from to determine where you are going! You deserve more and so do your kids:) Book your free session below!
Cheers to Your Badassery,
Evelyn
